[love & respect]

Last night future Mr. and I had another pre-marital counselling/coaching session. We LOVE those! It is a dear time of learning; being taught by some of our dear friends who are succeeding in their marriage. Kenny & Shannon have the type of marriage for which we are aiming. Kenny said, "We have made good habits. We have gotten this far with limited scars. That is important." I very much admire them.


Last night our theme was "Love and Respect" from Ephesians 5:33, "Each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." I'll be honest, Mr. Coons and I have not been really awesome at feeling valued or respected. We tend to bring this up to one another as well. Kenny & Shannon reminded us that we don't always need to voice our complaints, while that may seem like it would fix the issue or help communication, it doesn't. It is more important to protect the other person's heart.


Mr. Coons, 
I'm sorry for the times when what I say comes off as disrespectful, even when that is not my intention. I will be more intentional in saying things that will only encourage you and support you. I will also work on understanding that you are valuing me even when what you say or do does not come across to me as very loving.

The Future Mrs.